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18 October 2008 @ 12:46 pm
How do you reconnect with people, anyway?  

So I have this childhood friend that I lost track of years and years ago, and it's always been one of my great regrets that we have lost touch. I've tried to contact her a couple of times with letters sent through the postal service, but I have no idea if they were received. I never got a response, anyway, but the address was several years old and she probably wasn't living there anymore. I also looked for her a couple of times on Facebook and MySpace, but never with success.

I was thinking about her this morning because around this time of year I would see her at Country Roads Music Camp at Mt. Madonna. I tried googling her again, but no luck. So I decided to try searching for her mother.

Success! I found something!

Her mother's obituary.

Her mother was such an amazing, strong woman. Smart as can be, too. When I was younger I always admired her; she was the first person I knew who homeschooled her kids, and her life seemed so bohemian compared to how I was raised. They lived out on a ranch and had tons of animals, and the kids were so smart (I think my friend graduated college the year I graduated high school - and our ages were less than three months apart) and the daughter (my friend) was active in gymnastics and theatre and just all these cool things that I could never do because I was at school all day. I thought she had the best life, and her mom was just the best mom ever.

And it turns out she's been gone for almost two years, and I had no idea. I just feel so sad. The good news is I finally found a way to (hopefully) contact my friend, but in a way I feel like a huge failure now because at a time when she needed her friends I wasn't there for her. (Although as kerotab can testify, I am horrible to have around when your parents die. I remember when she called to tell me her mom had passed away, the conversation went something like this:
Kero: Hey...
Me: Hey! What's up? Your mom feeling better yet?
Me: Hey! How's your mom doing, did she kick the bucket yet?
(I can't remember what I said, but either way it was totally not cool and inappropriate.))

Anywho, so I sent my friend a message through Wayn.com (never heard of this site before, anyone here a user?) and I hope she answers. I'd really like us to hang out again; I always had so much fun with her and I never really told her how important she and her mom were to me. But of course, part of me wonders if the reason I never heard back from her when I wrote is not that the letters got lost, but that she hates me for some reason, probably extremely valid, that I cannot recall.
kerokerotab on October 19th, 2008 04:55 am (UTC)
I seriously cannot remember how I broke the news to you about my mom. Was it bad? Couldn't have been. Don't worry. whatever it was, I was most likely still in shock to even notice what anyone was telling me.

Good luck reconnecting with you friend! Is she on facebook or myspace? maybe you can try there.
fashion_piranhafashion_piranha on October 20th, 2008 05:32 pm (UTC)
She isn't on facebook that I can find! The problem is I don't have a clue what her e-mail address is, and on MySpace so many people don't put their "real" name on the site that it isn't always very easy to find people!

I remember that conversation because I felt SO BAD afterwords, and that it was a mark of the goodness of your character that you never hold my "foot-in-mouth" comments against me. :D