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10 May 2010 @ 10:26 pm
Don't you want to keep that to yourself?  
It always seems weird to me when people I don't really know start talking about their relationships. I don't mean when it's done briefly, as an aside, like if I'm talking to a classmate and he says, "Last week my girlfriend and I went to the mall and did this and that." That's fine. It's when someone I've literally *just* met starts gushing "Oh, my boyfriend and I have been together for two years, which isn't really such a long time but after my three marriages I'm wondering if I should still be with him." That's a LOT of information to drop in one go to a virtual stranger.

I've been thinking about this because that's the sort of person my new co-worker at RHA is. She's an older woman, in her 40s I think, and I just thought it was so strange that one of our first conversations was about the history of her failed marriages (three) and the difficulties with her current boyfriend. I mean, never mind that I wouldn't want to discuss these things with someone young enough to be my daughter...we just met. Isn't that a little, well, personal? (Also, if you have three failed marriages by the time you're forty should you really be considering a fourth one? I'm just saying, maybe you aren't cut out for the married life.)

I rarely talk about my relationship with Seanie unless someone asks about it. That is, unless I'm talking about something we did together. I don't really have a strong reason why, except that it just doesn't occur to me that my romantic history is the least bit interesting to strangers.
 
 
 
Just Me!xhappyx on May 18th, 2010 02:10 am (UTC)
"She's an older woman, in her 40s I think"

First of all, I have to LOL at that... hehe

But... I know what you mean. I am a lot more private than I used to be about many things.

I think sometimes when people share TMI about personal things it is because they might be lonely and have nobody else to share things with or anyone (or God) to lean on... depending on where they are with family/friends and spirtually...
Suzik00kaburra on May 18th, 2010 02:14 am (UTC)
Heh heh. I just meant that she wasn't a twenty-something college student, like me. Forty doesn't seem *nearly* as old as it did a few years ago, LOL.
whimsicalbeauwhimsicalbeau on May 18th, 2010 02:36 pm (UTC)
Pssh, you should be talking about us all the time. We're great, and hardly fight, and you give AMAZING birthday Presents, and I drive you everywhere and cook you eggs. We're awesome.
jeanniejeannietran on May 18th, 2010 11:30 pm (UTC)
I think it's something females do... and we just don't have that girly-share-relationship-tales gene or something.

When I first started working in a different classroom, I was at recess with one of my new coworkers and while the kids were playing she randomly asked me if the guy I was with at a previous work party was my bf (it was) and then proceeded to ask the usual questions ("how long have you been together," "how did you meet," etc) and I just told her basics without elaborating on anything. Then I felt obligated to ask her about her own relationship status so I did and then she launched into this whole big story about how she was in a 10 year relationship but ended it because he wasn't ready for marriage and then when he decided he was he tried to get her back but she said no and now they're trying to deal with being just friends and she's enjoying being single... and on and on! I would have just said "no, I'm not seeing anyone right now."